Why Society Is Still So Hard on Single Women — and Why We’re Done Playing Along

Being a single woman in today’s world is still treated like a flaw.

No matter how much we talk about empowerment, independence, or self-love, there’s a lingering cultural whisper: “What’s wrong with her?”

But here’s the truth no one likes to admit — society still doesn’t know what to do with a woman who is whole on her own.

And I’m done pretending that’s my problem.

💥 Let’s go back…

Historically, single women were feared, judged, or erased.

If you weren’t someone’s wife, you were someone’s burden.

If you didn’t belong to a man, you were seen as wild, unstable, or worse — dangerous.

Why?

Because a woman without a man wasn’t dependent.

She couldn’t be controlled, inherited, traded, or tamed.

She was… free — and that’s always made the system nervous.

💅🏼 Fast forward to now:

You’d think we’d have evolved by now. But nope.

A single man is praised. “Focused.” “Driven.” “A catch.”

A single woman? Pitied. Side-eyed. “Too much.” “Hard to love.” “Still waiting.”

I’m not waiting.

I’m living.

And I’m not hard to love — I just refuse to settle for hands that don’t know how to hold me.

🧠 What society still hasn’t learned:

A woman can:

Be whole without being in a relationship Choose herself every day and not feel selfish Crave connection and still protect her peace Want softness without sacrificing her standards

But because we’ve unlearned the scripts — because we no longer need to be chosen to feel worthy — we make people uncomfortable.

🤍 Real talk:

I’m not anti-love. I’m not bitter.

And no — I’m not a hairy-legged, man-hating feminist who’s sworn off affection.

I’m just a woman who’s seen enough to know that not all connection is created equal.

I believe in love — real love. But I believe in peace more.

And if the cost of being touched is being diminished, disrespected, or drained… I’ll pass.

🛑 So here’s what I’m not doing anymore:

I’m not apologising for not being partnered I’m not accepting pity dressed up as concern I’m not explaining why I’ve “still not settled down” And I’m definitely not lowering my standards just to avoid judgment

👑 Final word?

If you’re a single woman, you are not behind.

You are not broken.

You are not lacking.

You are unowned. And that is powerful beyond measure.

Let them be confused.

Let them whisper.

Let them stare.

You?

You keep choosing you — boldly, loudly, and without shame.