I Think I Do Better When I’m Single

Let me just say it plain:

Sometimes, I feel like I’m my best self when I’m single.

Not because I don’t love love.

Not because I’m “anti-men” or closed off or bitter.

But because when I’m on my own, I remember who the hell I am.

🔓 I don’t have to shrink.

I’ve been in situationships, relationships, almost-things that chipped away at me.

Made me quieter. Smaller. More accommodating.

And I can’t do that anymore. I won’t.

When I’m single, I feel like my voice gets louder — not aggressive, not arrogant — just clearer. I don’t second-guess myself. I don’t over-explain. I don’t carry someone else’s insecurities on my back.

🔓 I glow differently.

I move differently.

I listen to my body. I rest. I create. I build things.

I don’t spend hours overthinking a text message or wondering why I feel so alone in a relationship that’s meant to be full.

There’s peace in my solitude.

There’s growth in my stillness.

There’s power in knowing I don’t need anyone to complete me — I’m already whole.

🔓 But let me be real for a second…

I’m not saying I’ll be single forever.

I’m saying I won’t sacrifice myself again to be loved.

If I’m going to be in something, it has to feel like freedom, not fear. Like expansion, not exhaustion.

Until then, I’m staying single, soft, smart, strong… and completely in love with the woman I’m becoming.

If you’ve ever said, “I think I do better when I’m single,”

— maybe that’s your soul whispering “Yes. Because this is your healing season.”

You’re not behind. You’re not broken.

You’re just busy becoming unstoppable.

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And if it resonated? You’re not alone. I see you. I am you.

— Lorraine, Confidence Unlocked